Kabhi kabhi aapke bolne se zyada jaise aap move karte hain wo matter karta hai. Bolna communication ka ek chota part hai, baki sab aapki body language par depend karta hai. Iska matlab hai kaise aap apne aap ko represent karte hain, aap ke manners ya aapka conduct. Body language kaisi honi chahiye aur body language ko kaise sudhare uske tareeke janna important hai.
Body language kya hai?
Body language basically non-verbal signals hote hain jo hamare communication ka ek bohot huge part hai. Body language aapki personality ka ek important part hoti hai. Jo baatein hum bol nahi paate, humare facial expressions aur body movements wo information convey kar dete hain. Research suggest karti hai ki mostly log expressions ke basis par judgments kar lete hain. In fact jab hum kisi new person se milte hain to hamara subconscious mind uss person ki body language ko evaluate karne mein busy rehta hai taki hum uske personality jaan sakein.
Kya kabhi apke mind mein aaya hai ki body language kaise sudhare or body langyage kaisi honi chahiye? Kya aap apne body posture, gestures, facial expressions ki wajah se conscious ho jaate hain? Kya aapko pata hai ki aap apni body language se kisi dusre person ko kaisi vibes de rahe hain? Permanent change kisi bhi issue par inside out work karne se aata hai, matlab uski roots ko address karke.
Iss article mein hum aapko batayege ki body language kaisi honi chahiye aur usse kaise sudharna chahiye.
Achi body language kyun honi chahiye?
- Jab aap kisi group mein communicate kar rahein hai, toh agar aapki body language positive hai toh aap apna point aur zyada ache tareeke se sabke saamne rakh payenge aur aapke words aur impressive lagenge.
- Aajkal jobs milna itna easy nahi hai. Zyadatar jobs interviews ke baad hi milti hai. Toh agar aap interviews ko positively aur confidently face karna chahte hai toh uske liye inn skills ki bohot zaroorat hai. Isse aap formally, informally, kisse kaise baat karni hai sab theek se samajh payenge.
- Successful logon ki achi body language hona bhi unke success ka ek part hi hai. Jab aapki body language achi aur impressive hoti hai tabh log aapse baat karne mein zyada interest show karte hai aur aapke saath kaam karne mein bhi.
- Agar aapki body language se logon ko negative vibes aayengi toh na toh aapki social life achi hogi na hi normal routine kyuki log aapse zyada interact karna pasand nahi karenge.
Body language kaise sudhare – kuch zaroori tips
1. Apne aas paas ki awareness rakhiye
Body language kaisi honi chahiye ye samajhne ke liye or usse improve karne ke liye sabse pehla step hota hai aware rehna. Agar aapko apni body language ki ache se knowledge hogi tabhi aap usko improve kar payenge. Jo bhi aap karte hain, jaise bhi karte hain, jab bhi karte hain, har cheez par attention dena important hai. Apni body language ko sudharne ke liye apne aap ko pehchan na hoga.
2. Eye contact bnaake rakhna zaroori hai jaan ne ke liye ki body language kaisi honi chahiye
Eye contact, connection maintain karne ke liye bohot essential hai. Jab hum kisi se baat kar rahe hote hain, usme eye contact maintain kar ke rakhenge toh dusre person ko lagega ki we’re listening to them. Stare nahi karna hai, wo uncomfortable hojaega, bas poori concentration se baat sun ni hai. Also, agar aap eye contact banaye rakhenge toh confident body language lagegi. Dusra person aapki body language ko easily judge kar lega aur aapki personality ko bhi. Agar aap baar baar apni eyes idhar udhar karenge aur eye contact nahi maintain karenge toh aapka confidence kam lagega. Eye contact maintain karte hue don’t be afraid.
3. Arms cross mat kariye body language improvement ke liye
Agar aap apni arms cross karke rakhenge toh others will feel ki aap interested nahi ho baat karne mein ya aap upset ho. Dusron ko aisa lagega ki aap conversation ko bohot lightly le rahe ho aur aapke liye matter nahi karti koi bhi baat jo wo bolein. Ye ek natural habit hai, maybe aapko na pata chale kab aapne apni arms ko cross kar liya, but kyuki hum baat kar rahe hai ki body language kaisi honi chahiye, toh ek positive impression bnane ke liye ye bohot important hai.
4. Bolne se pehle sochiye
Most of us, jab hum baat karne lagte hain to kabhi upar toh kabhi neeche dekhte hain and jab humein lagta hai ki humne apne saare thoughts ko gather kar liya hai tabh firse hum eye contact maintain karne ki koshish karte hain. Isse better hai ki jab aapko sochne ka time chahiye toh idhar udhar dekhne ki bajaye, ek pause lena chahiye, thoughtful lago thoda socho aur firse eye contact maintain karne ki try karo jab bhi conversation start karni ho. Isse apke words powerful lagenge kyuki apki eyes bhi support kar rahi hai aapke words ko.
5. Observe people
It is possible ki aap kuch logo ko admire karte ho, toh unhe study karne se aapko kaafi idea mil sakta hai ki khud ko kaise change kar sakte hai ya kaise usse learn kar sakte hai. Khud se question karna chahiye ki kyu aapko unme perfection dikhti hai? Kyu aap unse inspire hote ho? Unki body language, unke har cheez karne ka way itna attractive kyu hai? Ye sab observe karne se khud ko improve karne me bohot help milegi.
6. Relax your shoulders aur jhukiye mat – Body language kaise sudhare samajhiye.
Hamare shoulders ki position humari personality ke bare me bohot kuch convey karti hai. For instance, agar shoulders zyada high honge toh aisa lagta hai ki aap nervous hai, tensed hai and aap conversation ke liye ready nahi hain. On the other hand, agar aapke shoulders slouched honge ya jhuke honge toh self-conscious aur sad vibe aayegi. Toh apne shoulders ko normal rakhna chahiye comfortable lagne ke liye.
Aapki back ya spine bilkul straight rehni chahiye jab aap kisi se baat kar rahe hai. Apne aap ko remind karwaiye ki you have to ‘chin up’ and neck ko straight rakhna hai taaki aap confident lage and apna point of view easily rakh sake.
7. Bolte time speed ka dhyan rakhiye
Kabhi kabhi jab hum nervous ya tensed hote hai toh bohot tez bolna shuru kar dete hain jaise kisi ne fast forward ka button daba diya hota hai. Dusra person bohot easily guess kar lega ki aap confident nahi hai aur na aapko knowledge hai ki aap kya bol rahe hai.
Zyada fast bolne se dusron ko aapki baat samjhne mein bhi bohot problem ho sakti hai kyuki ho sakta hai wo aapke words clearly na samajh payein. Apne words aur thoughts ko clearly rakhne ke liye it is very important ki aap clearly bole and aapni baat ko convey karien.
8. Maintain proper distance
Ye ek bohot important aspect hai jaan ne ka ki body language kaise sudhare aur kaise improve karien. Kuch log close talkers se comfortable hote hain aur kuch logo ko zyada distance hi acha lagta hai. You should observe ki kya kisi ko lean in karna padh raha hai aapse baat karte hue ya koi durr ho raha hai aapse baat karte hue. You should move closer agar kisi ko baar baar lean in karna padh raha hai aur agar koi durr ho raha hai, then aapko unse zyada se zyada distance maintain karke hi rakhna chahiye.
9. Smile karna zaroori hai body language improvement ke liye
Lighten up, khud ko zyada seriously nahi lena chahiye. Relax karna chahiye kyuki logon ko aapse baat karne mein zyada acha lagega agar aap unhe ek positive vibe denge. Log tabhi aapse zyada interact karenge agar aap ek jolly aur happy environment create karenge.
Aisa bhi nahi hona chaiye ki aap khud ke jokes par khud hi hass rahe hai, usse aisa lagega ki you’re needy. Jab kisi se aap pehli baar mile, introduce ho tab smile karna important hai, but aisa bhi nahi hai ki poora time you’ve to smile. Just relax and enjoy yourself.
10. Don’t fidget
Kabhi kabhi kuch logon ko habit hoti hai ki baat karte hue continuous movement karte rehne ki. Nervously apni legs shake karna ya baar baar table par apna hand ya fingers ko tap karte rehna. Inn movements se aap bohot nervous aur worried lagenge and ek conversation ke through bohot distracton ho sakti hai. The other person might get irritated and ho sakta hai wo aapse baat karne mein interested na rahe. So, it is important ki aap apni movements par ache se focus karein.
11. Communicate karte hue gestures use kijiye – body language kaise sudhare janne ke liye body gestures zaroori hai.
Jo log ache speakers hote hain, wo apne hand movements use karke apne confidence ko maintan karke rakhte hain. Agar aap hand gestures se converse karenge toh people will feel ki aap unse baat karne mein interested hain and ki aap actually unse baat karna chahte hain. Hand movements also convey ki aap complex thinker hai.
Agar aapke fists clenched hongi toh aisa lagega aap aggressive hai, on the other hand agar aap accepting gestures show karoge jab arms and palms round hote hai toh dusre person ko ek positive feeling aayegi. Jab koi baat kare toh nod karna bohot crucial hai, usse unhe pata chlega ki you’re a great listener.
12. Understand the expressions of other people
Logon ke facial expressions par attention deni chahiye, usse kisi bhi person ke true emotions ko hum jaan sakte hain. Jaise agar koi nod kar raha hai matlab wo apki baat sunne me interested hai. Agar koi hamari baat sun kar emotional ho raha hai ya fir disagreement dikha raha hai toh wo sab humein isi judging ke basis par pata lag sakti hai.
Body language kaisi honi chahiye aur body language kaise sudhare ye sab samjhne ke liye ye tips mind mein rakhna crucial hai.
Extra things to keep in mind
- Jab aap kisi naye person se interact kar rahe ho toh ye bohot important hai samjhna ki kaisi body language honi chaiye ki wo clear lage. Kisi bhi job interview, presentation, date ya koi aur occasion mein sabse pehle apki personality aapki body language hi batayegi. Toh bohot crucial ho jata hai wo fact kyuki aapko apni body language ke through hi first impression bnana hai.
- Khud ke expressions ko observe karna important hai. Agar aap kabhi sure nahi hain ki apko kisi cheez ke bare me ya kisi ke baare me kaisa feel ho raha hai toh apki body kya keh rahi hai uss pe attention dena zaroori hai.
- Humesha honest and non judgemental rehna chahiye. Agar aap kuch keh rahe hain jo ki sahi hai aur aap usse mean karte hain toh apki body language uss se follow karegi and dekhne me kisi aur person ko awkward nahi lagega.
- Ye assume nahi karna chahiye kabhi ki aap kisi ki bhi body language ko easily interpret kar chuke hai ya kar sakte hai. You can be wrong, jaise agar kisi ne apni arms fold kari hai toh iska humesha ye matlab nahi hoga ki wo interested nahi hai ya unhe baat nahi karni, ho sakta hai unhe cold lag raha ho.
- Kabhi bhi koi facial expression ya gesture ko fake nahi karna chahiye. Isse agar dusre person ko pata chal gya toh unhe lagega that you’re lying and that you’re fake. Isse acha impression nahi jayega. Isliye ye important ki jaise aap hain waise hi rahein.
Conclusion
Aisa nahi ho sakta ki aap har cheez ke bare me puri tarah aware rahein, deep breath lekar relax kariye. Body language kaisi honi chahiye ya usse improve kaise karna hai ye shuru shuru mein shayad thoda unnatural lage but zyada force nahi karna hai khud ko, go with the flow.
Thodi si awareness aur upar discuss kiye points ko mind mein rakhte hue aap ache se communicate kar payenge apne words se bhi aur apni body ke through bhi. Bas thodi patience ki zaroorat hai.
Humesha alert rehna chahiye kyuki humari eyes se humara passion, words se intention aur body language se humari personality ke bare me bohot kuch pata chalta hai.
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